"Every Good and Perfect Gift Comes From Above" ~James 1:17
Monday, February 2, 2015
We will be chronicling our journey over at the new blog Our East and West, as Brittany (my sister) will be blogging from Florida and I will be blogging from Colorado. Yes I googled chronicling to be sure it was spelled right. "record (a related series of events) in a factual and detailed way"-- thank you Wikipedia.
I'm leaving this blog up though for several reasons.
1) I like to go through it from time to time and remember parts of our trip to get Emily. It was incredibly hard at first to look back but the longer she has been with us the easier it has become. In total honesty, it took me almost an entire year of her being home before I could watch her "Gotcha" video, the day she was literally placed in our arms out of a van in a hotel valet. I cry every. single. time. It is like a birth video of sorts, without the vagina shots and cheesy baby encasement. (Yes I know what it's called. I'm a neonatal nurse for crying out loud. Doesn't mean I like to touch it.)
On to reason #2) When we first started the adoption process, we were literally clueless. We were given a timeline with an alphabet of random letters but with no actual dates since everything was completely up in the air. Our agency is fantastic and I recommend them highly to anyone who asks, however just starting out I really relied on the blogs and stories of other adoptive families to figure things out. (Outside the Store Bought Box's blog was one of my favorites, she was just ahead of us in the adoption journey to be helpful without being so far ahead that I thought we'd never catch up). <<Once I found Virginia's blog I honestly read went back and read it from the very first post. I cried when they finally got their little girl and I couldn't wait until that was us!
Being a Type A personality I wanted to get everything done right away, but I had to learn that slow and steady was how the adoption race is run. That was a hard pill to swallow. BUT, if I had to do it all over again I would definitely and completely 100% adopt again. Yes you read that correct. We are not, and I mean NOT, having or adopting another child into our family, we are soo soooo complete. The Moreland family is a party of 4 from now until forever and you can write that in stone. We've found our happy! But hopefully this blog can help guide those in the process.
3) When I clicked on my old blog today I realized that I hadn't posted anything since January. Of 2014. That's not OK! I know I have been busy but I owed it to whoever is following the story to continue to provide updates. Also, it said I had over 21,000 page views. WHAT?!?! That's insanity! So for those who do follow along here, I'm not going far. You can see our family of 4 as we travel across the country and put down roots way out of our comfort zone. It might be a little crazy at times but you can be sure we will let you see the good, bad and the ugly of the trip. The ugly will probably be provided by yours truly after 3 days of not showering so as not to dirty the pristine bathroom I spent hours cleaning but I digress. Come check us out and let us know what you think!
Friday, January 10, 2014
I meant to post more once we got home. I really did. But life has been so busy and time has flown. Today we have officially had Emily in our arms for one whole month! Wow how things have changed! Right now she's running around the house naked, squealing in delight because baba (daddy) is chasing her, stopping only to lay on and smother with kisses the kitties she was so terrified of a few weeks ago. I never would have thought that Emily would be this well adjusted so quickly. She definitely prefers to be home with all of us and misses daddy when he's at work or Austin when he's at school. But she loves too when we go visit her grandma (lao lao) and papa, her aunts, her other grandma, and even their doggies! She is reserved at first in new situations or around new people, but give her some time and the free spirited little girl comes shining out. We've been through Christmas eve and Christmas day, meeting new people and eating new foods, surrounded by lots of noise and presents. She had a blast! We introduced her to the beach where she got sand in her toes and actually enjoyed it! New Year's eve we went to our friends' annual party, there were about 20 kids and over 30 adults, and at first Emily was attached to my hip. But eventually she found some food she liked (her first priority) and she found where the M&M's were hidden. Soon she was riding the toys around the house with all the rest of the kids! She passed out around 10 and we were actually able to stay long enough to watch the ball drop!
Now the holidays are over, David has gone back to work (boo!) and Austin started school again yesterday. The good news is with all of the school work we did with him over the break he is actually a little ahead of the game. But he's so excited to tell all of his friends about his sister and his trip and what he got for Christmas that I'm sure this little chatterbox will be sent home with a note soon. Typically it's for talking when they are supposed to be quiet. Either that or he was acting too silly. Don't know where he got that from. Wink wink.
When he comes home Emily is so excited, she loves following him around and playing outside when he's out there with his friends. Then David comes home around 6 and Emily gets this insane burst of energy right before bed. She crashes hard between 7 and 7:30, and sleeps until early the next morning when something wakes her up. I don't know if it is nightmares or what, but she used to wake up crying hysterically and shaking around 3 AM. We tried so many things to get her to go back to bed, rocking, taking her potty and putting her back down in her room, laying with her for a while in her room, nothing seemed to do much else but buy us 30 minutes or so until it happened again. And when we would lay with her she would whimper on and off and she was just restless. So I honestly haven't gotten a good night sleep since we went to China! But the last 2 nights she has woken up, come into our room without crying, and asked to be picked up. We bring her into our bed (not a habit I wanted to get into, but I'll take a few extra hours of sleep for sure!) and she goes back to bed. It's not a peaceful slumber, she tosses and turns more than Austin ever did which was a LOT. I'll wake up and she's at the foot of the bed with her butt up. Then she'll be laying across my body sideways. Then we wake up and she's got her face pressed against mine and her feet on David's head. Wild child. But it buys us some more time of rest so I'll take it!
This post really doesn't have a point other than to tell everyone that we are still alive, just trying to figure out a new normal for our family. Haven't gotten all of the pieces figured out, we may never, but we are working on it and every day gets a little better. I was actually able to iron today while she played at my feet with her shopping cart! That was HUGE! A few weeks ago I didn't think I'd ever be able to get anything done without David being here. She is very clingy still but will go off and explore on her own little by little. I haven't been able to cook a meal yet, I've tried and it hasn't been pretty! Emily doesn't understand why I can't feed her right away while I'm cooking, the toddler mindset comes out and it's all about ME and NOW! When she's hungry, which is all the time, you'd better be ready with food. Our pantry door fell off the other day (projects never end) and now she has free reign of all the food she can reach. That's been fun. When I lose sight of her in a second I can always find her trying to open the wrapper of her favorite snacks. Little stinker. When anyone enters the kitchen, she is right at their heels asking for food (she says "hungry" but it sounds like "guppy").
So until I figure out how to get her to play on her own, which I'm sure will come with time, we aren't eating many of my usual home cooked meals. That was my favorite part of being home when Austin was little, being able to cook. Right now Emily requires my constant attention, which I'm more than happy to give as I'm sure she lacked a lot of that until this point. We cover her in kisses, snuggles, hugs, I love you's, and tickles, until she can't take it any more. We've got 2 1/2 years to make up for, so she hasn't seen anything yet!
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Today we went shopping on Shamian island, which was fun despite the rain! We scored some squeaky shoes for Emily, a set of Chinese silk dresses to fit as she grows up, and Austin got his name hand painted on a scroll. He really wanted a huge sword but we told him they wouldn't allow him to fly home with it :) When Emily saw the hand painted bracelets and shoes she lit up and wanted to try them all on, I guess we should be preparing ourselves to bring home a princess!
Austin has gotten this bargaining thing down! I ask how much, the shop owner answers, then Austin pipes in with his price. It's really quite comical! In the end I refer to David, since he's the holder of the money (literally, he's wearing it in a tiny money belt around his waist) and he's much better at the conversion from dollars to yuan. Basically every dollar is 6 yuan, so we would get carried away at trying to drove down a price then we would realize we were only talking about a few bucks! But you have to bargain, because if you don't get something for a good price there are 5 more stores right next door with the exact same stuff. I heard once the island was booming, but due to the US consulate moving and other renovations there was only maybe 1/3 of the shops that were once there. And it was too gloomy and rainy to see any of the pretty sites. But there was a Starbucks of course so I was a happy camper!
Lunch was at a western restaurant called Lucy's, I got fish and chips and they were fresh and surprisingly tasty! Austin said the cheese pizza tasted like they used ketchup as the sauce unfortunately. :P he's just happy that everywhere we go he gets to order soda (caffeine free of course) since the water is questionable and I'm not messing around with stomach issues!! This means we can't use ice though, which is hard for a mega ice user like myself! So I just drink coffee or beer, and I'm happy!
Saturday, December 21, 2013
|Watch out world, this girl has her Foster Grants on!|
|Learning how to climb onto her new big girl bed!|
|Did you call me? I'm busy with play-doh!|
|Slightly tired the day after a loooooong day of travel!|
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
We're in Hong Kong gearing up for the longest flight ever with a toddler! The last 2 days I've been super sick, but I made it through the border to Hong Kong Thank the Lord. They check your temperature before you come in so I loaded up on Tylenol ;) praying the flight goes smooth and as quick as possible. We are all packed up and enjoying our last few minutes in our luxurious guest room at the Marriott in Hong Kong, everywhere we've stayed has been super nice. But it doesn't compare to home! Can't wait to show Emily our Christmas tree, even though I'm sure she will be rearranging all the ornaments within reach.
We can see a golf course right next to our hotel and it's killing David ;) almost to America, talk to you when we are on the other side of the world!
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Yesterday was my birthday and it was a fun day! After breakfast we went to the Guangzhou folk art museum despite the cold and rain. It was partially indoors so we were done after about a hour of drizzly cold. Austin got a necklace that has a pendant holding a grain of rice with his name carved on it. We also got a set of chopsticks. On the way to the museum everyone sang happy birthday to me, we are traveling with such a sweet group of families :)
When we got back nap time wasn't happening so we took the kids to the play area. I was able to sneak out and left them with David so I could get a foot massage. They also massaged my legs and back, took 70 minutes total all for about $30 (US). Woohoo!
I got back just in time for our last group dinner. We ate at a family style Chinese restaurant and I think all 17 families were there! It was really fun. Another family had a birthday this week too so they bought 2 cakes and we all shared. They were good!
Today we left at 9 for our appointment at the US embassy to get Emily's visa. The trip was uneventful except for the 5 minute run through the rain since umbrellas aren't allowed in the embassy.
Now we're playing in the hotel room and David is getting us pizza for dinner. I'm tired of Chinese food, noodles, and McDonald's because that's all that is around. I can't wait to get home and get some good Mexican from habeneros. I'm sure they are wondering where the Moreland family has been!
Tomorrow we have to wait around to get her visa and then we leave for Hong Kong in a van. One night there and we fly out to the US in the morning! Prayers are requested for a safe, uneventful flight on Thursday! We will leave for the airport around 9 in the morning and get to Florida at 7 that night, which will be 8 am China time. About 24 hours of travel once we actually walk in our door. Then we introduce Emily to her new home, room, bed, dogs, cats... No biggie! ;)
Saturday, December 14, 2013
Yesterday we spent the morning in the hotel room counting down the hours until we could leave for Guangzhou. It was a windy cold day, too cold for anything outside. We couldn't wait for the warmer weather and more Western feel of Guangzhou! Our plane left at 4:20 PM so we left for the airport at 1. Security in the airport was much easier to go through than in America, there's no taking off of the shoes nonsense. The flight was 2 1/2 hours, and Emily didn't seem to know anything was different. The landing was bumpy but she didn't flinch. She got antsy a few times and we had to share a row with a Chinese businessman so I tried to keep her as quiet as possible. This girl doesn't like to be held down or told what to do! I can't wait to see what she thinks of car seats since here they ride on our laps without even seatbelts!!
We got to our hotel after 7 but after check in and finally getting her crib it was 10:30, and this momma was tired. For some reason Emily had made a switch to not only preferring me alone but also to pushing away anyone else. This is exhausting, plus I feel bad for David because he tries to help but she won't let him at all. She's definitely opening her shell a little more and showing her true personality. We've had some great play times and some blow out temper tantrums. A good thing is instead of self soothing when she's hurt or sad she comes to me to be consoled. This happened when she bumped her head today and at the medical exam when she had blood drawn. Poor baby! Nothing a snuggle and an oreo couldn't fix. By the way Austin is in love with these oreos they have here. There's all different flavors but his favorite are birthday cake.
I haven't taken many pictures if at all these past 2 days because it's really been just stressful times and not too much scenery. Going shopping on shaiman island tomorrow and I'm quite excited about it! Really missing my family now, especially since I haven't been able to Skype with my mom in over a week! This whole internet blocking stuff is ridiculous and annoying :/ Ready to be back in the USA!! ☆☆☆